l knew this person for about 3 years now and he always gets sick and l asked him how come hes always sick and he told me he got a virus from getting cut in a basketball game and so his immune system is pretty much dead and he wont live till 40

he told me this about 3 weeks ago and l just put the puzzles together that he might have aids (i never really thought about it)

but l am not sure that he has aids and l wanna ask him but dont know how

this is very hard for me hes my good friend

also whenever he has gotten with a girl he told me she gave him a hand job and nothing else and that was weird to me because why only just a handjob and l never really thought htat he might have aids and doesnt wanna spread it but now it looks like it


how do l ask him gently about this whole thing

i need to know if its aids or not
i actually do need to know because he might be having sex with girls that l know and l dont wannacatch it that way thats or one

and second l need to be more careful around him not to get cut or anything because we play basketball together drink together do crazy shit together l need to know what up wit my boy
thank you so much kate zane l think it could actually be the white cells thing u said this is a big weight off my shoulders thank you

l think u might WANT to know, rather than need to know.

Perhaps ask yourself why it is important, & why u want to know. Quite frankly, the only legitimate way for u to find out is for him to tell u because he wants u to know. l suggest that perhaps u let him know through ur actions & words that u r there to listen to him if he wants, & to support him if he needs it: with anything, not just his illness - & with any illness, for that matter, not just AIDS.

Well if u r true friends then he will eventually gather enough courage to tell you. Just look for a moment when u r having a relaxed chat & ask him if he minds shedding some more light on his condition.
On the other hand u do not have to be over cautious when dealing with him there r a people u deal with everytime who have it & u do not know so u deal with them in an ordinary manner.
l think he is also such a gentleman not to want to infect girls. l believe his story about only getting handjobs. If he it was a lie he would tell u that he sleeps with them but he would not lie to u about getting hand jobs.
Off course at one time he may get carried away & end up sleeping with a girl so he may need to have protection nearby when he is with a girl.

OK it couyld be he has aids but there is also a disease called an auto immune disease and it means that you rwhite blood cells (that fight infection and bacteria) are abnormally low so there is that and there is aids wich l am pretty sure you would know what is all about


Here is some great info on immune diseases

AIDS is pretty serious. l would just come out in ask in a nice calm way. Assure him that you can remain friends.